100 FACTS FOR SINGLES (RECAP)
1. A good home is built on a good marriage.
A good marriage is built on the foundation of a good courtship.
2. Courtship gives you insight of your partner's value.
3. Courtship is the most important part of marriage.
Most marriages are suffering because of wrong courtship.
4. Courtship must begin only after you have discovered God's will.
Please go for God's perfect will and not HIS permissive will.
5. Courtship is not a period to relax, it's a period to pray.
This is a period to pray because foundational problems from both families are joined together and needs to be settled.
6. Someone in authority over you should be aware before going into courtship.Never go into a secret courtship.
7.Courtship doesn't automatically translate into marriage. It is a time to study each other not an instant ticket to marriage.
8. Courtship without focus is useless courtship. Never settle for a partner who doesn't plan for the future.
9. If you are in courtship without the intent of getting married then both parties are fooling themselves.
10. When courtship is healthy , marriage is sweet.
11. Courtship is a time to open mouth for communication, not a time to open your skirt and trousers. It is a time of information and knowing.
12. Ask the right questions.
13. You may not have all the money to start with, but you must have a plan. Don't use money as the number one yardstick for marriage. Look out for focus and plan. If you marry a 'useless' person your own good plan can be affected.
14. Don't go into courtship or marriage because of social status or political positions. Only personality lasts, social or political status don't.
15. Don't start your marital life with huge debts. Never borrow to start a future.
16. You must reveal secrets in courtship. Be truthful. Don't hide your financial status, health status or family background.
17. When a relationship becomes boring, it's no longer love.
18. Have partial knowledge of marriage. Read books on marriage and parenting.
19. Don't learn from your own mistake, learn from others mistakes and failures, ask those whose marriages are failures and successes and find reasons for both outcome.
20. Before you go into marriage, you must be physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially matured.
21. Be yourself. Be original. Anything you pretend to be will fade away.
22. Be nice. The world is a small place, show courtesy to all people.
23. Allow your partner space. choking your partner doesn't make him/her love you more.
24. Look out for your own fault. Ask yourself 'what is my fault?'. In relationships, the basic problem is that no one wants to identity their fault.
25. Put each other first. Consider your partner first.
26. Recognize some signs now.
27. Don't belittle your partner, especially in public. Try to 'package'. Don't compare your partner to friends.
28. Don't date someone that doesn't care. Anyone that doesn't show care isn't responsible.
29. Choose someone that makes you laugh. Your spouse should be someone that gets you excited.
30. Don't play games. There's only one seat in the heart. It cannot accommodate two at a time. End one relationship before going into another.
31. Never force your partner to love you. Love flows naturally, don't beg to be loved.
32. Be the first to say 'sorry'. Many words could be in an offended heart but a simple 'sorry' can quench it. Saying sorry doesn't make you weak.
33. Know when to listen and when to act. The greatest place you should be patient is in relationship.
34. Never stop to be attractive to your spouse. Attraction keeps relationships on during crisis.
35. Don't try to be your partner's parent. Never 'police' your partner. Policing makes
relationships boring.
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